In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as children—
“My child, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, or lose heart when you are punished by him; for the Lord disciplines those whom he loves, and chastises every child whom he accepts.”
Endure trials for the sake of discipline. God is treating you as children; for what child is there whom a parent does not discipline?
Discipline is a part of parenting, and the part that most o us like the least; however, it is necessary if we are to give our children a good direction in life. When we discipline our children we give them a sense of right and wrong, and teach them the values we hold dear to us.
Above all it is important to remember that we provide discipline out of love, because we want our children to grow up to be the best people they can be!
Sometimes though it is hard to know how to best discipline our children, whether or not we are being fair, or if the discipline and guidance we give them really helps at all.
These doubts can seem more prevalent during the teenaged years. I have a theory that due to hormones and other life changes that some children simply lose their minds at the age of 14 and then come back to sanity sometime around 20 (give or take a few years). As parents of a teen, it can be very tough to find a way to effectively discipline, as often our efforts are disregarded if not met with resentment and frustration!
As single parents of teens we can find ourselves not only battling our own kids, but outside influences, from their other parent, to friends, popular culture, etc. It can be hard to remain consistent with discipline when you are not sure if you are doing the right thing; however, with teens we just need to do the best we can, and rely on those around us as a sounding board, or as a source of advice.
The good news is that there are professionals, clergy, friends and family to turn to for help with discipline, with trying to keep the kids in line, and with ensuring that our frustration not turn to anger — which is never helpful, if sometimes unavoidable.
As single parents, sometimes we have to make hard choices when disciplining our children (no matter what their age is) and it helps to have the support of others, and to remember that all of our help comes through God’s love!
Let us Pray:
God, we know that discipline is important, if unpleasant. Please let us remember that we discipline out of love and concern for our children. Help us to remain fair and not to succumb to our own frustration or anger when disciplining, but instead to reach out to others for help. Thank you for putting those good people in our lives, who share your love with us in their advice and support.