I hope to come to you soon, but I am writing these instructions to you so that, if I am delayed, you may know how one ought to behave in the household of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and bulwark of the truth.
Our homes can be a place where the grace of God dwells, and in fact may be the very first place our children learn about faith! As such, our homes should be a safe place for the whole family to live and thrive! In order to ensure that our homes do not fall into chaos, we often need to set down rules for behavior in our homes, although it is not always pleasant, it is important to set boundaries and to stick to them.
Setting boundaries becomes more important for us as single parents, as we often rely on our kids more to take care of things in the home, or to help us to make decisions, and because for those of us who work, our kids may wind up spending more time than we would like, being on their own after school, and therefore must take on more responsibility for themselves. This is especially apparent as our children get older and become more independent.
As single parents we are the ones who have to deal with broken rules and ignored boundaries, that can run the gamut from staying up too late on a school night, bad grades, or just talking back, to having to deal with Vice Principals, substance abuse, and…on occasion, members of local law enforcement,
When problems occur, it can be helpful to keep an open mind, to listen to all sides of the story, and not to lose our cool (a real tough one — but getting angry only makes things worse). Most of all it is important that we behave as children of God, and as carriers of the gospel, to remind our children, and those around us that God still dwells in our home.
Sometimes, we need to rely on the help of others to maintain this faith, to managed our own frustrations, anger and fears, and that is why we are blessed if we have people in our lives who can give us love and support, and who can share the comfort of the gospel with us; people like family, friends, and other single parents, as well as professionals, pastors, and counselors. Together, we can ensure that God’s grace will continued to be shared in our homes, no matter what challenges we may face.
Let us Pray:
God, thank you for dwelling with us in our homes. Please help us to make our homes into a safe place for our families, and ourselves. However, if trouble does arise, help us to be able to reach out to those around us for help and support…and rest. Please help us to live the gospel in our lives every day, and thank you for those who can bring the gospel to us when we need it.